Why So Judgemental ?

Just as i was typing this post, Psquare’s “Story” came to mind. Lovely song talking about their story and how far they have come. It has struck me several times when i see certain people that these people have a story. There’s a reason why they are the way they are and why they act the way they do. Most times people are so quick to judge they dont even want to stop to think for a minute that something might be prompting your actions.

There was a day i saw a man on the road with chains on his hands and feet. He looked like he had been walking a long distance but was determined not to stop. I now tried to think and imagine where he was coming from. For there to have been chains on his hands and feet means he had obviously been bound up somewhere but he broke free. I tried to imagine what circumstance must have led to him being bound up. He would have been a young normal guy living his life and then something maybe went wrong somewhere. I have no idea but i was just trying to imagine. Anybody seeing him would just assume he is mad. But on closer observation you would realise he’s just a sad, poor, wandering fellow who most likely has no where to sleep.

Around us, there are the usual hoes who sleep around. Some for money, others just for the fun of it. Most times we are ever so quick to judge them and call them hoes, whores, prostitutes and all. We dont even stop to think and wonder why they do what they do. I dont think they enjoy jumping from bed to bed, some sleeping with men old enough to be their fathers, enduring the never ending insults and turned up noses at them. But they still choose to continue. Some dont do it for the money.. Just for the thrill i guess. But even the ones that do it for money arent all greedy. Some actually need the money. Ever stopped to think that some of them are just bloody insecure or they have scarring memories of some things that may have happened to them in the past? Abuse shouldnt be left out either. They may have been terribly abused as children hence their wayward behaviours.

I’m not saying selling your body is right and neither should poverty or greed prompt anyone to do such but some people just cant help it. No their destinies arent buried somewhere in their villages neither are their destinies pots of burnt food but there definitely are things in their pasts that have affected the choices they make and why they do what they do.

So people can we try to not be so judgemental because most times we have no basis for our judgement just our pure observation. Everyone has their story. Beneath a cheerful and funloving exterior may lie a life full of pain, sorrow and unimaginable heartache. Tears shed in closets will never be seen outside. In other words you can never tell what a person is going through unless that person lets you in and even if they do, you can never imagine the pain they feel. Therefore dont be quick to judge people when you see them.

Cheers 😀